But you're married to a Doctor...

People used to say that to me all the time. Little did they know what is was like behind closed doors. I would justify the abuse because" I made him do it" or " I pushed him to those limits" Mostly he was controlling. Being a physcian allowed him to feel superior and he brought that home. I heard.. " I allow you this lifestyle" " no one would want you any way" .... It took 12 years but i finally was a shell of being and I needed to save myself. I gave my last effort and divorced him. Ironically the worst was yet to come.
Don't get me wrong, it was no cakewalk to leave. I would sneek out of the house, only to return because I could not leave my kids behind. I walked away from all the assests because all I wanted were my children.
Unfortunatly, it was after the divorce when a heated argument turned into more. Two black eyes later he was in jail. Finally, people would know. But again, that was not the worst of it.... 8years later my son finally stood up to his dad. Although my son (6'3") won the physical battle my ex pressed charges on his 18 year old son. We went to court, my daughter was protected, my son found innocent and but the scars this man has left behind are immeasurable.
People often react with pity when they find out even a fraction of my story. Here is what I say. Don't pity me, be happy for me that I am in a better place, pray for my children. that they will survive this trauma and be proud of me, so I can hold my head up high. I have won a battle that so many women have lost or are fighting right now. One of my favorite quotes is " I cam to this world to live out loud!" and I will...